DeHaven.info We saved you a seat.

Fifteen years of youth ministry taught me that almost everything worth doing starts with making room for somebody. This site is the rest of it — the hobbies, the servers, the half-finished builds, and the work.

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A playground, not a portfolio

This is where I put things I am working out. Some of it is ministry, some of it is a game server, some of it is a website I built at two in the morning to find out whether I could. It is all public because writing it down once is cheaper than explaining it twice.

I have been making websites since Homestead in 1998 — through WordPress, Drupal, and whatever came in between. I have never been especially good at code. I have always been extremely willing to find out what a tool will do if you push on it.

Fifteen years

We saved you a seat

That was the motto in youth ministry, and it turned out to be the whole job. Camping, hiking, airsoft, board games, video games — none of it is a gimmick. Those are the hours where somebody actually talks to you. The hobbies became the way I made time and space to share the gospel I was called to share.

It carried over into a church plant in Philadelphia that did not work out. That one still stings, and it is still online, because pretending it did not happen would be its own kind of dishonesty.

I am an IT director for a non-profit now. I still feel called to make room for people who need fellowship, and my family is in it with me — this has never been a solo project.

Sending body
InFaith
The works
Manoa & Breakaway
Doing this since
Fifteen years
Breakaway, the retreat we run
Updates from Meg and me
Hope Philly, still standing as an archive
A ministry of InFaith

Breakaway

Breakaway is a two-night retreat for middle school students, and it is the most concentrated version of everything else on this page. Students come from a number of different churches and spend a weekend together — games, meals, worship, and teaching. The programme is why they sign up. The hours in between are where the conversations actually happen.

Meg is the one who carries it and the one people call. I do the plumbing behind it: registration, the money, the website, and the spreadsheets nobody wants to look at. That is a fair description of how most of our ministry has worked for fifteen years.

This year's is at North Bay Adventure Camp in Maryland, with Ashley Bohinc speaking and Ripe Worship leading. The theme is Best Life Ever.

This year
25–27 September 2026
Where
North Bay, Maryland
Who it is for
Middle school
Cost
$190 a student
breakawayretreat.org — dates, cost, and how to register
Delco Tactical

Airsoft

A field, a lot of kit, and a surprisingly reliable way to get people who would never come to a small group to spend six hours together in the woods. It has its own home, which is where the real detail lives.

delcotactical.com
Eldradia

Game servers, run properly

Eldradia is the machine under the stairs. It runs the game servers, the backups, and rather more Docker containers than strictly necessary. Everything on it is invite-only and run for friends and family, which means it gets looked after like it matters.

Right now that is Project Zomboid on Build 42 with a 347-mod pack, and a campaign called The Cold Chain that got badly out of hand in the best possible way.

The server hub
Out of the workshop

Camping & hiking

Trips, trails, and the logistics of getting a group of people somewhere with no signal. This is the oldest tool in the kit and still the best one — nobody checks their phone at a campfire, and everybody talks.

Trips and write-ups
Since 1998

Tinkering

Homestead, then a parade of CMSes, then WordPress and Drupal for years, and now building with AI in the loop. The tools keep changing and the instinct does not: I want to know what happens if I push on it.

What comes out of that gets documented — a Minecraft arcology build plan nobody asked for, a Gmail signature builder that runs entirely in your browser, an assessment form built for somebody else, this site's own design system.

Build logs and tools
Working together

What I can help with

I have a full-time job and I am not starting an agency. But I do this all day, I enjoy it, and if you are stuck on something in this neighbourhood I would rather help than not.

Websites that do not look like everyone else's
WordPress, Drupal, or hand-built and static. Including the parts people skip: hosting, DNS, caching, and making sure it survives whoever built it moving on.
Building with AI, honestly
What it is genuinely good at, where it will quietly waste your afternoon, and how to get a real result out of it instead of a demo.
IT for small non-profits
The day job. Systems a small team can actually run, on a budget that exists.
Self-hosting and home lab
Docker, backups, and owning your own stack without it becoming a second job.

No pitch, and no invoice for a conversation. Ask, and I will tell you straight whether I can help or whether you want somebody else.

How to reach me
The whole house

Not a solo project

Meg and I do this together, and so do our kids. Ministry is not something one of us leaves the house to go and do — it is the shape of the whole family, and most of what is on this site happened because all of us showed up for it.